LOVE YOURSELF LADIES!

With today’s society constantly bombarding girls and women of images of women that are a size that is not exactly healthy, and continuously showing us images of air-brushed pictures or cosmetically transformed stars while a forever growing television craze of model like TV shows, is it any wonder girls of the 21ST century feel the way they do?

Pressure has always been a factor for most teenage girls and even grown women but wit the media’s ever growing publicity of “size 0” models and actresses who have had a series of cosmetic treatments while apparently appearing to be perfect both on television and in magazines, then it is no wonder to any sane human mind that girls are losing the metaphoric will to live. Not only do they have their friends constantly chatter on about weight loss, the latest diet or fashion trends, now they are forced to look at “skinny” celebs who have the cute footballers or rap artists falling over themselves to bed these women. It is not merely peer pressure girls and women have to deal with on a daily basis, now their magazines and even the television are telling them how to be “perfect”. Stars that are of a low weight who have the guys many teenage girls fantasise about are giving women the impression that men only want that kind of woman.

Eating disorders and the pressure to look “perfect” is getting to a point of common rather than rare. Younger girls are wearing make-up and clothes that are more suitable for an older teenager because they see their favourite singer doing the same. Constantly, in music videos, or merely by television campaigns, girls are being subliminally told that “perfect” is of a certain brand. Successful women are “thin”, and “perfect” looking. celebs like Katie Price and Katie Holmes are not helping the situation by dressing their very young children in clothes and shoes designed for older girls, nevertheless while pasting make-up on their young faces.

Why is society in such a rush to make these girls grow up? Hannah Montana star Miley Sires has joined the ever growing young female stars by launching her own clothing brand geared toward young girls and teenagers. Where will the line be drawn? And who will draw it?

While society allows their children to grow up at a rapid pace, sexualising them earlier and earlier, with no reinforcement of self-respect and self-esteem, we will end up with a future generation of women who allow themselves to be controlled through sex by men and indeed relinquishing every ounce of equality women have fought for for so long.

So often we see younger girls wearing make-up and frankly looking like hookers, how long will it take for that one girl who dresses that way, sexualising her young self to become a teenage mother? When will girls learn that giving up sex to a man will not impress him only lower your own self-respect? Respect comes from both sides of the equation and if you cannot respect yourself then you cannot reasonably expect to gain respect from anyone else.

In Britain alone our teenage pregnancy rate is extremely high and how many of those young girls were not truly ready to engage in an adult sexual relationship. Being physically ready and emotionally ready are completely different things. How many of those girls keep having children because they do not respect themselves enough to say no?

You see these girls frequenting our high streets and malls daily, pushing a push-chair, make-up done as though they were about to hit the town and a skirt hardly warranting the title barely covering anything. The same girls frequent our towns and cities on a weekend looking for a new man to sleep with. Why can’t you gain some respect and take care of yourself for once?

Having a man does not justify your existence and if you can’t tell him no on the first night of meeting him, how much control can he truly have over you? If he walks away, was he worth knowing in the first place?

Far too many of our youth give it up for the first man that comes along and they believe other girls respect them and envy their relationships. Those of us with respect would rather be single than be treated like a piece of shit by a man.

I am not saying, dress like your grandma and become a nun but leaving a little to the imagination is often more an attractive virtue than having everything on show. The men you attract by showing everything are after one thing and one thing alone. Getting to know someone, learning their likes and dislikes seems like such a forgotten process. Jumping into bed seems the norm and that’s quite sad. If you truly need sex that badly, to help you feel good about yourself, does that not scream volumes? self-respect is about respecting yourself, loving who you are and if you need a one night stand with a man to make you feel good then your self-respect is mighty low.

Ladies, love yourself and you’ll attract the right man. Jumping into bed with the first man that shows an interest will be filled with superficial emptiness. Dress like a queen, conduct yourself like a lady and you will be treated like the princess you are.